11 posts tagged “love”
Dahaengida
(Dahaengida - Korean word for "I am glad/fortunate"
Release Date: April 2007
originally sung by Lee Juk)
After meeting you
Because I was able to
stroke your hair
Meeting you
Being able to breathe
Looking at each other
Holding you
I can rest in your arms
and cry whenever I'm weary
...I'm glad
a beautiful world exists
Even in the stormy wind
and under the shabby roof
The feeling that I'm not alone
Living day by day wearily
finding it hard to survive
now I think that this is not a meaningless existence
Because you
were always
here by my side
protecting me
Meeting you
Being able to cook the meal I can share with you
Meeting you
Because I can hold your chilled hands
Holding you,
Because I can offer even my useless comfort
...I'm glad
a beautiful world exists
Even in the stormy wind
and under the shabby roof
The feeling that I'm not alone
Living day by day wearily
finding it hard to survive
Because you
were always
here by my side
protecting me
Meeting you
Being able to
stroke your hair
- Memories of the Ssangchu couple,
HyunJoong & HwangBo
Playing at the White Grand Piano
- First day at Newly Wedded house
The First Attempt to sing Dahaengida at the New House
You can give without loving, but you can never love without giving. ~Author Unknown
It isn't the size of the gift that matters, but the size of the heart that gives it.
~ Quoted in The Angels' Little Instruction Book by Eileen Elias Freeman, 1994
Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it. ~William A. Ward
To give and then not feel that one has given is the very best of all ways of giving. ~Max Beerbohm
If you give what can be taken, you are not really giving. Take what you are given, not what you want to be given. Give what cannot be taken. ~Idries Shah
The manner of giving is worth more than the gift. ~Pierre Corneille, Le Menteur
Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. And today? Today is a gift. That's why we call it the present. ~Babatunde Olatunji
“Life is the first gift, love is the second, and understanding the third” ~Marge Piercy
“Everyone is gifted - but some people never open their package”
“Remember, the greatest gift is not found in a store nor under a tree, but in the hearts of true friends.”
“Love is, above all, the gift of oneself” ~Jean Anouilh
“The best gift you can give is a hug: one size fits all and no one ever minds if you return it”
“A book is a gift you can open again and again.”
~Garrison Keillor
T he past is history
The future is a mystery
This moment is a gift
That's why it is called the present.
At the end of your life,
you will never regret not having passed one more test,
not winning one more verdict,
or not closing one more deal.
You will regret time not spent with a husband, a child, a friend, or a parent.
- Barbara Bush
Base your decisions in life on love. Act on love, not fear. Love is about acceptance, letting go, compassion, wisdom, respect, self-respect, loving oneself, understanding, empathy, honouring values and upholding them, change and growth. All the goodness in it even if not evident immediately. Fear latches on and is myopic. Always remember love.
Love, mummy.
Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of eternal passion. That is just being “in love” which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Those that truly love, have roots that grow towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom have fallen from their branches, they find that they are one tree and not two.
There are times when we are timid and shy about expressing the love we
feel. For fear of embarrassing the other person, or ourselves, we
hesitate to say the actual words "I love you." So we try to communicate
the idea in other words.
We say ‘take care’ or ‘don’t drive too fast’ or ‘be good.’ But really,
We are sometimes very strange people. The only thing we want to say,
and the one thing that we should say, is the one thing we don’t say.
And yet, because the feeling is so real, and the need to say it is so
strong, we are driven to use other words and signs to say what we
really mean. And many times the meaning never gets communicated at all
and the other person is left feeling unloved and unwanted.
Therefore, we have to LISTEN FOR LOVE in the words that people are
An impulsive hug says I LOVE YOU even though the words might be saying very different.
Any expression of a person’s concern for another says I love you.
A mother may nag her son constantly about his grades or cleaning his
A daughter comes home way past her curfew, and her father confronts her
with angry words. The daughter may hear only the anger, but if she
listen carefully, she will hear the love under the anger. "I was
worried about you," the father is saying. ‘Because I care about you and
I love you. You are important to me.’
We say I love you in many ways - with birthday gifts, and little notes,
with smiles and sometimes with tears. Sometimes we show our love by
just keeping quiet and not saying a word, at other times by speaking
out, even brusquely. We show our love sometimes by impulsiveness. Many
times we have to show our love by forgiving someone who has not
listened to the love we have tried to express.
The problem in listening for love is that we don’t always understand
the language of love which the other person is using. A girl may use
tears or emotions to say what she wants to say, and her boyfriend may
not understand her because he expects her to be talking his language.
Thus, we have to force ourselves to really listen for love.
The problem with our world is that people rarely listen to each other.
They hear the words, but they don’t listen to the actions that
accompany the words or the expression on the face. Or people listen
only for rejection or misunderstanding. They do not see the love that
is there just beneath the surface, even if the words are angry. We have
to listen for love in those around us.
If we listen intently we will discover that we are a lot more loved
than we realize. Listen for love and we will find that the world is a
very loving place, after all.
LOVE is a happy thing.
It is not the presence or absence of people that makes the difference
because a person need not be lonely even if he is alone. Sometimes it
is good to be alone. But that does not make us lonely. It is not a
matter of being present WITH someone. It is a matter of being present
TO someone.
So remember…If you love someone, tell them. Remember always to say what you mean. Never be afraid to express yourself. Take this opportunity to tell someone what they mean to you. Seize the day and have no regrets.
Most importantly, stay close to your friends and family, for they have
these are just other ways of saying ‘I love you,’ ‘you are important to
me,’ ‘I care what happens to you,’ ‘I don’t want you to get hurt.’
saying to us. Sometimes the explicit words are necessary, but more
often, the manner of saying things is even more important. A joyous
insult carries more affection and love within the sentiments which are
expressed insincerely.
Sometimes the expression is clumsy, sometimes even cruel. Sometimes we
must look and listen very intently for the love that contains. But it is
often there, beneath the surface.
room. The son may hear only the nagging, but if he listens carefully, he
will hear the love underneath the nagging. His mother wants him to do
well, to be successful. Her concern and love for her son unfortunately
emerge in her nagging. But it is love all the same.
It makes us laugh.
It makes us sing.
It makes us sad.
It makes us cry.
It makes us seek the reason why.
It makes us take.
It makes us give.
Above all else it makes us LIVE.
helped make you the person that you are today and are what it’s all
about anyway.
Win an argument, lose a friend.
Read a very interesting article of late:
Life and How to Survive It by Adrian Tan; Author of "The Teenage Textbook"
Excerpt:
I want to start by giving one piece of advice to the men: when you’ve already won her heart, you don’t need to win every argument.
Marriage is considered one milestone of
life. Some of you may already be married. Some of you may never be
married. Some of you will be married. Some of you will enjoy the
experience so much, you will be married many, many times. Good for you.
If we are to develop an intimate When an action doesn't
relationship, we need to know
each other's desires. If we wish
to love each other, we need to
know what the other person wants
come naturally to you, it is
a greater expression of love.
The five love languages:
Verbal compliments, or words of appreciation, are powerful communicators of love. They are best expressed in simple, straightforward statements of affirmation, such as:
"You look sharp in that suit."
"Do you ever look nice in that dress! Wow!"
"You must be the best potato cook in the world. I love these potatoes,"
"I really appreciate you washing the dishes tonight."
"Thanks for getting the baby-sitter lined up for tonight. I want you to know I don't take that for granted."
"I really appreciate your taking the garbage out."
By "quality time", I mean giving someone your undivided attention. I don't mean sitting on the couch watching television together. When you spend time that way, ABC or NBC has your attention - not your spouse. What I mean is sitting on the couch with the TV off, looking at each other and talking, giving each other your undivided attention. It means taking a walk, just the two of you or going out to eat and looking at each other and talking. Have you noticed that in a restaurant, you can almost tell the difference between a dating couple and a married couple? Dating couples look at each other and talk. Married couples sit there and gaze around the restaurant. You'd think they went there to eat!
A gift is something you can hold in your hand and say, "Look, he was thinking of me," or, "She remembered me." You must be thinking of someone to give him a gift. The gift itself is a symbol of that thought. It doesn't matter whether it costs money. What is important is that you thought of him. And it is not the thought inplanted only in the mind that counts, but the thought expressed in actually securing the gift and giving it as the expression of love.
Actions such as cooking a meal, setting a table, washing dishes (I hate washing dishes!), vacuuming, cleaning a commode, getting hairs out of sink, removing the white spots from the mirror, getting bugs off windshield, taking out the garbage, changing the baby's diaper, painting a bedroom, dusting the bookcase, keeping the car in operating condition, washing or vacuuming the car, cleaning the garage, mowing the grass, trimming the shrubs, raking the leaves, dusting the blinds, walking the dog, changing the cat's litter box, and changing water in the goldfish bowl are all acts of service. They require thought, planning, time, effort and energy. If done with a positive spirit, they are indeed expression of love.
Physical touch is also a powerful vehicle for communicating marital love. Holding hands, kissing, embracing, and sexual intercourse are all ways of communicating emotional love to one's spouse. For some individuals, physical touch is their primary love language. Without it, they feel unloved. With it, their emotional tank is filled, and they feel secure in the love of their spouse.
Sexual intercourse, however, is only one dialect in the love language of physical touch. Of the five senses, touching, unlike the other four, is not limited to one localized area of body. Tiny, tactile receptors are located throughout the body. When those receptors are touched or pressed, nerves carry brain impulses and we perceive that the thing that touched us is warm or cold, hard or soft. It causes pain or pleasure. We may also interpret it as loving or hostile. Physical touch can make or break a relationship. It can communicate hate or love. To the person whose primary love language is physical touch, the message will be far louder than the words "I hate you" or "I love you". A slap in the face is deterimental to any child, but it is devastating to a child whose primary love language is touch. A tender hug communicates love to any child, but it shouts love to the child whose primary love language is physical touch. The same is true of adults.
Love touches may be explicit and demand your full attention such as in a back rub or sexual foreplay, culminating in intercourse. On the other hand, love touches may be implicit and require only a moment, such as putting your hand on his shoulder as you pour a cup of coffee or rubbing your body against him as you pass in the kitchen.
After years of research, I have realized what a unique situation Mark and Mary presented to me. Seldom do I meet a couple who both have the same love language. For both Mark and Mary, "acts of service" was their primary love language. Hundreds of individuals can identify with eirther Mark or Mary and acknowledge that the primary way that they feel loved is by acts of service on the part of their spouse. Putting away shoes, changing a baby's diaper, washing dishes or a car, vacuuming, or mowing speaks volumes to the individual whose primary love language is acts of service.
You may be wondering, If Mark and Mary had the same primary love language, why were they having so much difficulty? The answer lies in the fact that they were speaking different dialects. They were doing things for each other but not the most important things. When they were forced to think concretely, they easily identified their specific dialects. For Mary it was washing the car, changing the baby's diaper, vacuuming the floor, and mowing the grass, whereas for Mark it was making up the bed, washing the baby's face, putting the shoes in the closet, and having supper underway when he got home from work. When they started speaking the right dialects, their love tanks began to fill. Since acts of service was their primary love language, learning each other's specific dialect was relatively easy for them.
Your emotional love language and the language of your spouse may be as different as Chinese from English. No matter how hard you try to express love in English, if your spouse understands only Chinese, you will never understand how to love each other.
He was speaking love, and he was sincere, but she did not understand his language. Perhaps she was looking for love in his behavior and didn't see it. Being sincere is not enough. We must be willing to learn our spouse's primary love language if we are to be effective communicators of love.
The problem never lies outside of us. When we blame people, we turn them into the enemy. They’re not. They’re a mirror of how we feel about ourselves. If you don’t feel good about yourself, you’ll listen to people when they tell you that you’re not good enough. If you abuse yourself and tell yourself you’re not good enough, you’ll listen to people who abuse you. But if you believe in your inner beauty, you’ll listen to the people who tell you how wonderful you are. If you believe in your inner goodness, you won’t have time for people who abuse you.
If I despised myself, it would be no compensation if everyone saluted me, and if I respect myself, it does not trouble me if others hold me lightly. ~Max Nordau
Respect for ourselves guides our morals; respect for others guides our manners. ~Laurence Sterne
The willingness to accept responsibility for one's own life is the source from which self-respect springs. ~Joan Didion
To free us from the expectations of others, to give us back to ourselves - there lies the great, singular power of self-respect. ~Joan Didion
If you want to be respected by others the great thing is to respect yourself. Only by that, only by self-respect will you compel others to respect you. ~Fyodor Dostoyevsky
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